So I haven't posted in awhile, as you can see. But I got about 4 movie reviews waiting in the wings.
Been having trouble with putting words on the screen.
Mind not functioning smoothly. - more on this later.
Had an interesting wknd. All blended together into one lump due to a lack of sleep. Doesn't help that I wore myself out on top of the not sleeping. Amazing how much you can run around without sleep and proper amounts of food in your system.
What's even more amazing is that I had a wicked game of field hockey. I also had a wicked amount of bruising from said game.
Got smashed in the arch of my left foot 4 or 5 times with the ball. So walking sucks.
Then I got my left thumb busted up twice. So my thumbnail is all bruised up as is my index finger.
Then my left palm is bruised from the butt end of my stick.
Enough injuries to make me bitch (like I need an excuse) but not enough to stop me from hitting up a theatre.
So here's a question for you:
When someone you know has a problem/situation and you are trying to help them out, how selfish can you be in your advice?
Now, I'm not one for being selfish when helping out people and giving advice. I'm known for being quite objective and giving both an outsider and insider point of view.
And dammit, I'm good at it too.
In this case though, the results of the decision at hand kinda effect me as well. Not anywhere as close as it will effect them, not even.
But enough that it changes the relationship that is currently going on.
Problem is that it is not a conscience change. It's just a matter of priorities and things like that.
In this case, I would not be a priority. Pushed to the side I would be. Which would eventually lead to a total lack of communication.
Which is to bad, cause I liked where this one was going or not going as the case would be.
Suggestions? Opinions? Help......?
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advice is a tough subject , you feel offended whene they ask for it but don't take yours, which like you said is selfish becasue you want to be the opne who helped them out , NO ONE ELSE, but not helping is smoething that only assholes do.......so what do we do, I try to take all ties that I have with that person and only give them an answer based on personal opinion and no feelings envloved, then go back to the way things were after they problem at hand has been delt with. But i stay neutral as much as possible so no one gets hurt
ah, that isn't an issue. It's not the advice i'm giving that is, or will be causing the problem.
It is the decision on their part afterwards.
I can go back and forth between neutral advice giver and friend. No prob there. But question is how selfish can i be if i'm effected by the results of the decision.
Ahh I see, if they take your advice, you may be affected positively or negatively, or not at all? Well, then, I would just forget about your 'self' and try to think of what is overall the 'most right' in this situation... think it through, is there going to be a good end for everyone? ie. even people short term negatively effected - will they be better off in the long term? Even if that is you? Be carefull not to think of yourself as a martyr - but also not as a saviour, sounds like people can be hurt - I'd just say what you know you gotta say - if you're thinking about it this much - maybe it is best to just get it out into the open? Otherwise - you may end up wondering forever.... But then again, "Don't take my word for it"
I ain't no PBS reading show host.
I think you give great advice. Thanks for being there for me Deep.
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